Some Exciting News about Sarah Kate and Myself

So, we put our heads together, in grand conspiratorial fashion, and decided I should post first.

Those of you who follow the back-and-forths of Sarah Kate’s journal may have noticed that we had decided to take a break for a week, while we figure things out. We’ve kept in steady phone contact, which has actually been helpful, unlike most such situations. And we finally came to a conclusion.

WE’RE GETTING MARRIED!

Okay, that’s not true, we’re breaking up. But I had ya there for a minute, didn’t I?

We’re still very close friends, love each other very much, and we’ll be seeing each other for dinner tomorrow night. As for the inevitable questions, she brought it up, but it was a mutual decision we came to for our own reasons. This whole LJ thing complicates matters, because we’d like to tell friends we don’t see much, but things get weird on LJ, and y’know, I’m still gonna peel the eyelids off any musclebound, overeager, amoral dickheads who disrespects my Skate. You know, hypothetically speaking.

I still love all you folk I met through her, and she still loves the folk she met through me, and we know you all have your priorities, but there’s no need to ‘choose’ between us or not invite us to mutual functions. It isn’t like that. That said, if you choose to walk away, I won’t respect you any less.

Is there anything left to say? I’m mopey, my ego’s taken a bruising, and I’m feeling pretty alone, but none of that is surprising, or anything I won’t get over, and I’m not the only one. I have a really hard time asking for support, I’m usually the supporter, but IM’s and texts will be gratefully received.

On another, but sort of related note, I was listening to my christmas CD on the way to work this morning. Yeah I know, WTF? but it’s the custom one I created for that party I held 2 years ago, and it was during that time that I was overwhelmed with the love and effort people were willing to make for me. I knew I’d need it today, and two years down the line, I still feel a humbling gratitude that nearly chokes me up. You’ve always been there for me, which is why I think nothing of being there for you. I’m a really, really, really lucky guy.

~ by Skennedy on August 30, 2005.

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50 Responses to “Some Exciting News about Sarah Kate and Myself”

  1. Yeah you had me. Thats what I get for not reading all the way. :P

    bradd said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:09 pm

  2. awwe :( i’m glad you guys are still on good terms though :)

    t0astbandit said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:17 pm

  3. There was an even better reason for saying you should post first than the ones we listed:

    You are WAY better at it than I am. That was very, very well done. *hugs* I hope you are alright today. You deserve all the love and support you can get from our friends.

    silverbriar said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:17 pm

    • Thanks *hugs*. You can use it yourself, if you want *amused*.

      I’ll be okay. We’re not broken, and we still have each other, right?

      “I win now, but sometimes I lose
      I’ve been battered, but I’m never bruised
      It’s not so bad

      And I say weigh, hey, it’s just an ordinary day
      And it’s all your state of mind
      At the end of the day
      You’ve just got to say, it’s alright”

      atdt1991 said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:27 pm

      • Great Big Sea makes everything better, doesn’t it?

        And yeah- we will always still have each other. I promise *more hugs*

        And yeah… I sorta stole it with a link… *hangs head all guilty-like*

        silverbriar said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:28 pm

  4. *hugs* you are very well liked. Don’t know what happened and if you’ll be around much any more but I’ve enjoyed talking to you and reading your journal.

    Guess this means I can make a go for her now can’t I? heheh. Ok maybe being funny isn’t appropriate right now. But it makes me sad about the both of you.

    disarray2 said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:27 pm

    • If being inappropriately funny were a concern for me, I certainly wouldn’t have said we were getting married. *smirk*

      I’m not disappearing, and nothing big happened, we just came to understand our situation together and wisely decided to do what is right instead of what is easy.

      And thank you. *smiles warmly* That means a lot to me.

      atdt1991 said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:33 pm

  5. awe man, sorry to hear it. Yesterday was just one of those days for everyone, wasn’t it.

    LJ romance is a bit.. weird. The one and only time I was engulfed in one.. it sucked in the worst possibly way something could suck. And as far as he’s concerned .. it still does.

    tender_shredder said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:28 pm

    • Yeah, the girl I was dating before Sarah Kate was (and is) on LJ, and that was a painful explosion that took a long time to cool. We’ve never seen each other or spoken to each other, since.

      atdt1991 said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:35 pm

      • Yeah, same here. “He” did some really mean things through his LJ that I still can’t get my head around even though we tried very hard to mend a little bit of the fence and spoke a couple of times. I took him off my f-list be he refuses to remove me from his. Open Gaping WOUND!

        tender_shredder said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:39 pm

  6. You’re a remarkable man. I don’t know you well, but what I do know, has always greatly impressed me.

    May things work out for both of you in the best possible way.

    holyscapegoat said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:38 pm

  7. Awww… man! So, this is how I find out that you and Sarah Kate are dating? This is all so sad!

    clayfoot said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:41 pm

  8. I love you and respect you more than anything for having the courage to do what is right and not easy. Boobie hugs will be yours soon my friend.

    Anonymous said this on August 30, 2005 at 4:54 pm

  9. Aw, dude. Hugs from Chicagolandia.

    You sound already like you’re doing OK, and seeing as how you are one of the most chipper and positive-thinking people I know, things will feel a bit more balanced and light soon enough.

    *more hugs*

    *runs away*

    entelein said this on August 30, 2005 at 5:48 pm

    • Thanks, Krystyn. *hugs back* You’re awesome.

      So, I’ll expect you for Halo again this Thursday, my house, right? Or am I meeting you for coffee? *smirk* I’m positive your car could make it down the street. :)

      *runs away*

      atdt1991 said this on August 30, 2005 at 6:00 pm

  10. Gave me a heartattack followed by a heartpang. I’m sorry to hear the sad news, m’dear. *hugs you*

    raencloud said this on August 30, 2005 at 5:51 pm

  11. Well I am sorry to hear it, but I am very glad that it ended well between you and you are able to stay friends. Best of wishes to both of you.

    aileen3 said this on August 30, 2005 at 5:56 pm

  12. Sorry to hear that. Hooray for friendly breakups, though. Most of mine have been friendly, and that’s definitely the way to go.

    I have a gift that will make you feel better. It’s blue and glowy.

    fiercesteyes said this on August 30, 2005 at 6:28 pm

  13. Well this was unexpected. I’m so sorry. At least it was ended on good terms. I’m always glad when that happens.

    *offers hugs*

    cassiopia said this on August 30, 2005 at 8:32 pm

  14. *great big hugs*

    While I am sorry for your sadness, I am heartened to see that you and she are friends. That is a very difficult thing to do. My ex-fiance hasn’t spoken to me since the day before his wedding. But, on the other hand, the only fellow who dumped me (horribly, I might add), I wound up marrying. Damn, but life is weird. Best wishes, my friend!

    meepkitty said this on August 30, 2005 at 9:45 pm

  15. *HUGS*

    studlyspam said this on August 30, 2005 at 9:51 pm

  16. I’m sad for you both. But I’m definitely glad you’re staying friends.

    elisethestrange said this on August 30, 2005 at 10:21 pm

  17. I love you both and miss you terribly.

    anipaschke said this on August 30, 2005 at 10:50 pm

  18. *mew* and *meep* and *hugs*

    I am sorry things didn’t work out for you, but I’m glad you’ve reached an amicable resolution. Give a holler if you need distraction :)

    isolt said this on August 30, 2005 at 11:07 pm

  19. Coming from me, by now, this probably sounds cliche, but I know what it feels like to be in the place you are after something like that. My best friend is my most recent ex. I still get sad sometimes when I think of the love that was once there. I still hug him and kiss hiim hello when I see him. I think and hope it’ll always be like that.

    Judging from the amount of responses this post has received, I’d say you are very blessed by very many people. We may not know each other personally, really, but I’m always happy and eager to listen to a good person when they have something they need to talk about. Be it ranting, raving, crying or excitement, I’m your man.

    aa_ron said this on August 31, 2005 at 2:01 am

  20. Wow, that’ll teach me not to skim, eh? (: I was on the verge of composing a congratulatory message….

    But I’m sorry you’re feeling bruised, and though I don’t know you well, I hope it helps to know i’m thinking of ya! Maybe we should jump out of an airplane or something. *grin*

    renniekins said this on August 31, 2005 at 2:02 am

  21. as always, i am here but mainly silent. phone if you want to talk.

    revelation8 said this on August 31, 2005 at 2:46 am

  22. *hug*

    peculiaire said this on August 31, 2005 at 10:47 am

  23. I got nuthin’.

    ‘Cept hugs for you both, of course.

    silver_bits said this on August 31, 2005 at 3:19 pm

  24. Okay, that’s not true, we’re breaking up. But I had ya there for a minute, didn’t I?

    Oh, you bitch. You’re so getting whapped when you come into the booth on Saturday.

    Hook.

    Line.

    And sinker.

    Fucker. < grin >

    On a serious note, I’m sorry it happened. On a purely reactive note… fuck. You got me really, really good.

    thatguychuck said this on August 31, 2005 at 4:05 pm

  25. *hugs*
    i love you sweetie.

    jupiters_angel said this on September 2, 2005 at 4:54 pm

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